I often get asked what a 24/7 TPE dynamic looks like. While there are, of course, times I subject my sub to various brilliantly sadistic torments, the majority of time we spend in space does not look like that that at all. For one thing, inflicting pain on someone is tiring.
Let me just preface this by saying, I am not out to criticise anybody who identifies with the GFD label in any way. I’m here to pick a bone with the term itself. Not only has the label outlived its usefulness, becoming more confusing than meaningful, but it has created
‘I need someone to force me to submit’ is yet another sentiment which shows up in my inbox surprisingly often. It has rubbed me the wrong way for as long as I can remember, but I couldn’t put my finger on why. After all, the rhetoric of force weaves itself
The words ‘kink’ and ‘fetish’ are often used synonymously. They are however quite distinct. To give you the Cliff Notes – most kinks aren’t fetishes, but fetishes are kinks. When I sat down to this, I found a few conflicting definitions. So, in the interests of clarity, I had a
Inexperienced subs often cite said inexperience as the most significant barrier to finding a dominant. I’ve heard subs compare it to the Catch 22 posed by a lot of entry level jobs – everywhere you can get experience requires you to have experience already. Inexperience undoubtedly can count against a
‘The ratio’ of dommes to subs is a myth. So, why do so many male subs claim that finding a domme is impossible?
As far as my frequently occurring frustrations go, this one is both particularly frequent and frustrating. Why? Well…
I would describe my dynamic as 24/7 TPE. This is often misunderstood, so I thought I’d attempt a definition. First things first, it is worth nothing ’24/7′ and ‘TPE’ are two separate (although naturally interlinked) concepts. 24/7 refers to a dynamic in which there is no ‘off switch’. This means
Here’s a psychological experiment from fairly early on in our dynamic. ‘Turn your head,’ I said. He stared at me, side eyed and unmoving. I eyed him with mounting disapproval. ‘I’ll give you one more chance. Turn. Your. Head.’ Nothing. He was afraid I would bite him, leaving those blotchy
There is a smile I smile whenever I am in a sadistic vein. I can’t help it. It’s entirely involuntary. I can just feel my face doing it. I have tried to stop it. It’s impossible. My face is just set on doing it. I thought about it somewhat today,