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Thoughts of a Lifestyle Domme

I'm a lifestyle domme. These are my thoughts. /fin

Okay, but somewhat more seriously, dominance has been a part of me for as long as I can remember. Long before I really knew what it was. I pursued D/s as soon as I could and now have a 24/7 TPE dynamic . Over the years, I've written articles, guides, created resources and other bits and put them in one place. And you've found it.

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Quick Thoughts
Posts closer to the style of a conventional 'blog' than my usual articles - rough sketches of ideas, posted with minimal editing and review,  possibly to be revisited at some later date. Written mostly for my own peace of mind, but feel free to tag along for the ride.

Trust is Not a Binary

July 27, 2025
This is something I have been wanting to get a proper article together on for a while and will probably write up properly at some point, but in the meanwhile,…
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Why A Sub’s Inexperience Can Be a Red Flag

August 22, 2021
Inexperienced subs often cite said inexperience as the most significant barrier to finding a dominant. I’ve heard subs compare it to the Catch 22 posed by a lot of entry level jobs – everywhere you can get experience requires you to have experience already. Inexperience undoubtedly can count against a…
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The Sub / Domme Ratio

July 8, 2021
'The ratio' of dommes to subs is a myth. So, why do so many male subs claim that finding a domme is impossible?

The Distance from the Pedestal

December 15, 2018
Given the height of the pedestal we dommes are put on by the sycophantic hoards, it's no wonder we get a little cold. 
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Snapshot of My Dynamic: Sunday Afternoon Reading

May 19, 2022
I often get asked what a 24/7 TPE dynamic looks like. While there are, of course, times I subject my sub to various brilliantly sadistic torments, the majority of time we spend in space does not look like that that at all. For one thing, inflicting pain on someone is tiring.…
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On Mind Games

December 24, 2019
I have been fortunate enough to have the opportunity to explore some of the darker, CNC parts of D/s, which has included quite a lot of rather delicious mind fuckery. The high has been intense and beautiful. It has however proven surprisingly difficult to talk about, because the first question…
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