This section is the heart of my blog – here you’ll find articles, rants, and assorted writing dissecting and challenging the common tropes, clichés, and gripes around femdom, lifestyle D/s, TPE, and more. If you’re keen on gaining a nuanced and more precise understanding of kink, you’re in the right place.
‘Submission is a gift’ is more than just a poor analogy – it fundamentally misrepresents the foundations of D/s . Here’s why it’s high time to consign this tired trope once and for all.
As far as my frequently occurring frustrations go, this one is both particularly frequent and frustrating. Why? Well…
This particularly inane question comes in two main variants; either in the opening message, or after a few questions about me, with very little effort to engage with my answers. In short, if you’re asking, then the answer is very probably no. D/s dynamics develop organically, over time. They take
Shakespeare is perhaps not the first place that someone’s mind might go when thinking of D/s, but I have been fond of ‘The Taming of the Shrew’ since I first read it. For those unfamiliar with it, here’s a quick plot synopsis: A wealthy man of Padua has two daughters;
There’s a question that has been doggedly pursuing me, in its assorted variants, throughout my interactions with potential submissives: ‘So, what do you like doing to your subs?’ It seems a fairly innocuous question – a casual question about my interests to see whether they align. How could I possibly
The link bewteen submission and weakness has always been present, and the increasing emphasis on ultimate personal autonomy has only strengthened that idea.
Having just written about how male submissives frequently sabotage any chance of successfully developing a dynamic with a domme through ‘pedestalising’ them – approaching them with platitudes about ‘service’, ‘worship’, and whatever else they expect a domme would want to hear, instead of an actual conversation – I am prompted
Given the height of the pedestal we dommes are put on by the sycophantic hoards, it’s no wonder we get a little cold.
Hectolitres of electronic ink have been poured out by various bloggers in the BDSM community on the subject of the ‘Fifty Shades‘ trilogy and, in many respects, the matter has been written into its grave. I think pretty much everyone has read the resounding criticisms of Christian Grey as a
My thoughts on domestic servitude as a part of a Femdom dynamic
