Why Submission Is Not A Gift
‘Submission is a gift’ is more than just a poor analogy – it fundamentally misrepresents the foundations of D/s . Here’s why it’s high time to consign this tired trope once and for all.
How To Set Effective Protocol in a 24/7 Dynamic
A pragmatic guide on crafting and life-proof protocol within a 24/7 BDSM dynamic – whether you’re a newcomer or an experienced pro, these tips should help you design protocol which sticks!
Understanding Levels of Protocol
I am currently working on a post on establishing effective and sustainable protocol, which will be coming shortly. As a precursor, I just wanted to cover an introduction to protocol
Why Lifestyle D/s?
For some people, D/s is a fun little roleplay they wheel out in the bedroom and, of course, there is nothing wrong with that. But for quite a few people,
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Appearance Is Not The Foundation of Female Dominance
‘You want me, but you can’t have me. You’re not worthy,’ whispers the latex-clad dominatrix stereotype with her over-lined red lips. Her power stems in the fact she is an
Making Him Ask for Punishment
Here’s a psychological experiment from fairly early on in our dynamic. ‘Turn your head,’ I said. He stared at me, side eyed and unmoving. I eyed him with mounting disapproval.
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Why Lifestyle D/s?
For some people, D/s is a fun little roleplay they wheel out in the bedroom and, of course, there is nothing wrong with that. But
A Snapshot of My 24/7 TPE Dynamic: Sunday Afternoon Reading
I often get asked what a 24/7 TPE dynamic looks like. While there are, of course, times I subject my sub to various brilliantly sadistic
RIP ‘Gentle Femdom’, An Outdated Term
Let me just preface this by saying, I am not out to criticise anybody who identifies with the GFD label in any way. I’m here
Appearance Is Not The Foundation of Female Dominance
‘You want me, but you can’t have me. You’re not worthy,’ whispers the latex-clad dominatrix stereotype with her over-lined red lips. Her power stems in
My Life & My Dynamic
On Sadism: The Smile
There is a smile I smile whenever I am in a sadistic vein. I can’t help it. It’s entirely involuntary. I can just feel my
On Mind Games
I have been fortunate enough to have the opportunity to explore some of the darker, CNC parts of D/s, which has included quite a lot
Vulnerability
Vulnerability is what, to my mind, defines submission. That is to say, it is the ingredient which elevates a series of acts, be they sexual,
Understanding Levels of Protocol
The Difference Between ‘Kink’ and ‘Fetish’
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How To Set Effective Protocol in a 24/7 Dynamic
A pragmatic guide on crafting and life-proof protocol within a 24/7 BDSM dynamic – whether you’re a newcomer or an experienced pro, these tips should help you design protocol which sticks!
RIP ‘Gentle Femdom’, An Outdated Term
Let me just preface this by saying, I am not out to criticise anybody who identifies with the GFD label in any way. I’m here to pick a bone with
Why ‘Force Me To Submit’ Can Be A Red Flag
‘I need someone to force me to submit’ is yet another sentiment which shows up in my inbox surprisingly often. It has rubbed me the wrong way for as long
Why A Sub’s Inexperience Can Be a Red Flag
Inexperienced subs often cite said inexperience as the most significant barrier to finding a dominant. I’ve heard subs compare it to the Catch 22 posed by a lot of entry
The Sub / Domme Ratio
‘The ratio’ of dommes to subs is a myth. So, why do so many male subs claim that finding a domme is impossible?
The Taming of the Shrew
Shakespeare is perhaps not the first place that someone’s mind might go when thinking of D/s, but I have been fond of ‘The Taming of the Shrew’ since I first
Submission Is Not Weakness
The link bewteen submission and weakness has always been present, and the increasing emphasis on ultimate personal autonomy has only strengthened that idea.
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Why Submission Is Not A Gift
‘Submission is a gift’ is more than just a poor analogy – it fundamentally misrepresents the foundations of D/s . Here’s why it’s high time to consign this tired trope once and for all.
How To Set Effective Protocol in a 24/7 Dynamic
A pragmatic guide on crafting and life-proof protocol within a 24/7 BDSM dynamic – whether you’re a newcomer or an experienced pro, these tips should help you design protocol which sticks!
Welcome to E-Lust 161
Welcome to E-Lust – a monthly digest of sex and kink bloggers, helpfully organised by topic. Have a browse and see what takes your fancy.
Understanding Levels of Protocol
I am currently working on a post on establishing effective and sustainable protocol, which will be coming shortly. As a precursor, I just wanted to
