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Why Submission Is Not A Gift

‘Submission is a gift’ is more than just a poor analogy – it fundamentally misrepresents the foundations of D/s . Here’s why it’s high time to consign this tired trope once and for all.

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Understanding Levels of Protocol

I am currently working on a post on establishing effective and sustainable protocol, which will be coming shortly. As a precursor, I just wanted to cover an introduction to protocol

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Why Lifestyle D/s?

For some people, D/s is a fun little roleplay they wheel out in the bedroom and, of course, there is nothing wrong with that. But for quite a few people,

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Making Him Ask for Punishment

Here’s a psychological experiment from fairly early on in our dynamic. ‘Turn your head,’ I said. He stared at me, side eyed and unmoving. I eyed him with mounting disapproval.

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Why Lifestyle D/s?

For some people, D/s is a fun little roleplay they wheel out in the bedroom and, of course, there is nothing wrong with that. But

Lifestyle D/s In Motion

My Life & My Dynamic

On Sadism: The Smile

There is a smile I smile whenever I am in a sadistic vein. I can’t help it. It’s entirely involuntary. I can just feel my

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On Mind Games

I have been fortunate enough to have the opportunity to explore some of the darker, CNC parts of D/s, which has included quite a lot

Vulnerability

Vulnerability is what, to my mind, defines submission. That is to say, it is the ingredient which elevates a series of acts, be they sexual,

The Theory Behind Kink

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How To Set Effective Protocol in a 24/7 Dynamic

A pragmatic guide on crafting and life-proof protocol within a 24/7 BDSM dynamic – whether you’re a newcomer or an experienced pro, these tips should help you design protocol which sticks!

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The Sub / Domme Ratio

‘The ratio’ of dommes to subs is a myth. So, why do so many male subs claim that finding a domme is impossible?

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The Taming of the Shrew

Shakespeare is perhaps not the first place that someone’s mind might go when thinking of D/s, but I have been fond of ‘The Taming of the Shrew’ since I first

Submission Is Not Weakness

The link bewteen submission and weakness has always been present, and the increasing emphasis on ultimate personal autonomy has only strengthened that idea.

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Welcome to E-Lust 161

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Why Submission Is Not A Gift

‘Submission is a gift’ is more than just a poor analogy – it fundamentally misrepresents the foundations of D/s . Here’s why it’s high time to consign this tired trope once and for all.

Welcome to E-Lust 161

Welcome to E-Lust – a monthly digest of sex and kink bloggers, helpfully organised by topic. Have a browse and see what takes your fancy.

woman wearing sneaker and sandal

Understanding Levels of Protocol

I am currently working on a post on establishing effective and sustainable protocol, which will be coming shortly. As a precursor, I just wanted to

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