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Thoughts of a Lifestyle Domme

I'm a lifestyle domme. These are my thoughts. /fin

Okay, but somewhat more seriously, dominance has been a part of me for as long as I can remember. Long before I really knew what it was. I pursued D/s as soon as I could and now have a 24/7 TPE dynamic . Over the years, I've written articles, guides, created resources and other bits and put them in one place. And you've found it.

Have a browse, have a read and do have fun.

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Quick Thoughts
Posts closer to the style of a conventional 'blog' than my usual articles - rough sketches of ideas, posted with minimal editing and review,  possibly to be revisited at some later date. Written mostly for my own peace of mind, but feel free to tag along for the ride.

Trust is Not a Binary

This is something I have been wanting to get a proper article together on for a while and will probably write up properly at some point, but in the meanwhile,…
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Snapshot of My Dynamic: Sunday Afternoon Reading

I often get asked what a 24/7 TPE dynamic looks like. While there are, of course, times I subject my sub to various brilliantly sadistic torments, the majority of time we spend in space does not look like that that at all. For one thing, inflicting pain on someone is tiring.…
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The Difference Between ‘Kink’ and ‘Fetish’

The words ‘kink’ and ‘fetish’ are often used synonymously. They are however quite distinct. To give you the Cliff Notes – most kinks aren’t fetishes, but fetishes are kinks. When I sat down to this, I found a few conflicting definitions. So, in the interests of clarity, I had a…
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Why Lifestyle D/s?

What does being a lifestyle domme mean and why do I have a 24/7 TPE dynamic? Here's the very post to answer those questions.
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Making Him Ask for Punishment

Here’s a psychological experiment from fairly early on in our dynamic. ‘Turn your head,’ I said. He stared at me, side eyed and unmoving. I eyed him with mounting disapproval. ‘I’ll give you one more chance. Turn. Your. Head.’ Nothing. He was afraid I would bite him, leaving those blotchy…
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24/7 TPE: A Helpful Definition

24/7 TPE is often misunderstood, so here's a helpful definition. '24/7' refers to a dynamic with no 'off' switch. 'TPE' refers to the extent of control.
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