Snapshot of My Dynamic: Sunday Afternoon Reading
I often get asked what a 24/7 TPE dynamic looks like. While there are, of course, times I subject my sub to various brilliantly sadistic torments, the majority of time [...]
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RIP ‘Gentle Femdom’, An Outdated Term
'Gentle femdom' forces another false dichotomy on female dominance. Here's why we should let the label 'gentle femdom' rest in peace.
Appearance Is Not The Foundation of Female Dominance
‘You want me, but you can’t have me. You’re not worthy,’ whispers the latex-clad dominatrix stereotype with her over-lined red lips. Her power stems in the fact she is an [...]
Why ‘Force Me To Submit’ Can Be A Red Flag
‘I need someone to force me to submit’ is yet another sentiment which shows up in my inbox surprisingly often. It has rubbed me the wrong way for as long [...]
The Difference Between ‘Kink’ and ‘Fetish’
The words ‘kink’ and ‘fetish’ are often used synonymously. They are however quite distinct. To give you the Cliff Notes – most kinks aren’t fetishes, but fetishes are kinks. When [...]
Why A Sub’s Inexperience Can Be a Red Flag
Inexperienced subs often cite said inexperience as the most significant barrier to finding a dominant. I’ve heard subs compare it to the Catch 22 posed by a lot of entry [...]
The Sub / Domme Ratio
'The ratio' of dommes to subs is a myth. So, why do so many male subs claim that finding a domme is impossible?
‘What appeals to you about being a domme?’
As far as my frequently occurring frustrations go, this one is both particularly frequent and frustrating. Why? Well...
24/7 TPE: A Helpful Definition
24/7 TPE is often misunderstood, so here's a helpful definition. '24/7' refers to a dynamic with no 'off' switch. 'TPE' refers to the extent of control.
Making Him Ask for Punishment
Here’s a psychological experiment from fairly early on in our dynamic. ‘Turn your head,’ I said. He stared at me, side eyed and unmoving. I eyed him with mounting disapproval. [...]