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Thoughts of a Lifestyle Domme

I'm a lifestyle domme. These are my thoughts. /fin

Okay, but somewhat more seriously, dominance has been a part of me for as long as I can remember. Long before I really knew what it was. I pursued D/s as soon as I could and now have a 24/7 TPE dynamic . Over the years, I've written articles, guides, created resources and other bits and put them in one place. And you've found it.

Have a browse, have a read and do have fun.

Maintenance Spanking: Why & How To Add It To Your Relationship

November 14, 2023

A quick guide, covering the FAQs around maintenance spanking in D/s dynamics, including protocols, intensity levels, how to distinguish maintenance and punishment discipline and practical troubleshooting.

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Why Male Chastity Is Not A Femdom Essential

September 27, 2023

Chastity is often framed as a must-have in femdom dynamics. Have a read and delve into why male chastity really isn't a femdom essential.

Effective Punishments for Subs: A Comprehensive Guide for BDSM Dynamics

August 7, 2023

A comprehensive guide to effective punishments for subs: from exploring the role of submissive punishment to a step-by-step on how to set effective protocol, this guide covers all the bases.

Punishment vs Funishment – An Important Distinction

July 24, 2023

Distinguishing punishment vs funishment is not just semantics. It's central to clear communication on a topic which is the backbone of power exchange dynamics.

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Why A Sadist Won’t ‘Take It Out’ On You

May 26, 2019

If I happened to mention I am having a bad day in the course of conversation with a potential sub, I can usually expect something along the lines of ‘so take it out on me‘ in reply. I’m sure 9 times out of 10 the sub saying that just wants [...]

Why Submission Is Not A Gift

May 29, 2023

'Submission is a gift' is more than just a poor analogy - it fundamentally misrepresents the foundations of D/s . Here's why it's high time to consign this tired trope once and for all.

24/7 TPE: A Helpful Definition

June 7, 2021

24/7 TPE is often misunderstood, so here's a helpful definition. '24/7' refers to a dynamic with no 'off' switch. 'TPE' refers to the extent of control.

‘What appeals to you about being a domme?’

June 9, 2021

As far as my frequently occurring frustrations go, this one is both particularly frequent and frustrating. Why? Well...

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Jonah Hill, Boundaries, and ‘Being Controlling’ in a D/s Context

July 10, 2023

A quick topical write up of a conversation I had with a friend about Jonah Hill, boundaries and what it means to be controlling.

Making Him Ask for Punishment

January 24, 2021

Here’s a psychological experiment from fairly early on in our dynamic. ‘Turn your head,’ I said. He stared at me, side eyed and unmoving. I eyed him with mounting disapproval. ‘I’ll give you one more chance. Turn. Your. Head.’ Nothing. He was afraid I would bite him, leaving those blotchy [...]

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Thoughts of a Lifestyle Domme

Maintenance Spanking: Why & How To Add It To Your Relationship

Why Male Chastity Is Not A Femdom Essential

Effective Punishments for Subs: A Comprehensive Guide for BDSM Dynamics

Punishment vs Funishment – An Important Distinction

Why A Sadist Won’t ‘Take It Out’ On You

Why Submission Is Not A Gift

24/7 TPE: A Helpful Definition

‘What appeals to you about being a domme?’

Jonah Hill, Boundaries, and ‘Being Controlling’ in a D/s Context

Making Him Ask for Punishment

E-Lust 167 – Maintenance Spanking, (Mis)reading Dracula and Fucking Machines

E-Lust 166 – Chastity, Multi-Orgasmic Men and AI

E-Lust 164 – Punishment, Personality and Penises

E-Lust 163 – Sadism, Sex Rooms and Steamy Skills for Dirty Talk

Welcome to E-Lust 162 – Protocol, Phone Sex & P-Spot Probe

Snapshot of My Dynamic: Sunday Afternoon Reading

RIP ‘Gentle Femdom’, An Outdated Term

Appearance Is Not The Foundation of Female Dominance

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